Peter and Anne, a couple who have a really solid relationship, would like to add spice to the relationship by including a third person, a woman. Anne is not bisexual but describes herself as bicurious. Peter is a regular heterosexual man. Peter writes, “Our search continues since we both agreed after a lot of deliberation to organize a menage-a-trois. I think my girlfriend, like most women, is a romantic. The more natural our meeting our match will be better. So we’ve been not missing any holiday parties this year and that’s made us lots closer and our sex life is like a warm glowing holiday fire. I’m such a lucky stiff. In a short-lived 3-way relationship we shared a few years ago, I felt what can only be described as bliss.”
Search for a partner always takes time: I expect that your search will take a while because you guys are looking for a different type of experience and I totally support her path. If it is much closer to the way she wants it, it is going to be a lot more fun. I like to think that sex is almost a commodity and for the right price you can pretty much buy anything but the best sex is free and it is the thrill of the search and interaction with the partner before and after that is much more fun than the sex itself.
Surprises always make life interesting: I am glad that you are also choosing to take the spontaneous route. You will be shocked to find out how many casual friends that you meet might be up for it. When you interact with people you can quietly hint how you are evolving in your preferences without necessarily being very explicit and you never know who you are going to run into. I am glad that just the discussion and the search has made your relationship better, you are one lucky dude to have such a great partner. Make sure that you treat her like a princess.